Thursday, February 4, 2010

Broken Hearted? Got Some Ways to Heal It.


Hati terluka? Sakitkan? Post ini telah disuggestkan oleh seorang kawan. Dia kata, "Auni, ko buat lah tips-tips untuk mengubat hati". HOHO. Walaupun takde lah muka dia serius mana pun nak suruh buat sampai melutut ke ape kan, but terpikir gak, pe salahnya kan? lagipun, mane tau ar kan kot kot berguna untuk 'dia' dan mungkin sesiapa sahaja satu hari nanti. Maklumlah, dunia ni berubah, esok tidak akan sama dengan hari ini.*pening kepala lah pulak kena hujan tadi.*.

Banyak benda boleh menyebabkan hati kite terluka.Paling selalu kite dengar is break up. Tak kisahlah if you guys baru dating few months, or perhaps a long term relationship ke, or maybe a married couple, but breaking up aint that easy. ok, break up memang la senang, just say that 'magic' word, then phewshhh! everything's off. But trust me, sape cakap breaking up tu senang? It's really hurting..freakin' damn hard. Hoi, ingat senang-senang ke after berapa lama bersama nak buang segala bagai memori-memori bla bla bla? (tak pasal-pasal emo)

Ataupun antara sebab lain mungkin kematian one of family member ke, or maybe kene buang kerja, or maybe terasa dengan kawan-kawan ke, ataupun sakit hati sebab dah lama gila aim kasut tu, tengok-tengok, dah ada orang lain sambar dulu! Punye lah kita tabung duit nak beli, time sale, die grab dulu. CIS! Haha. Ataupun mungkin melihat budak kecik makan aiskrim yang gile banyak scoop die ketika cuaca panas dan di dalam poket korang hanya ada RM 0.50 yang mana hanya layak membeli icecream malaysia tu je. hoho. Ataupun mungkin ada yang berharap gila kat something,tiba-tiba you found out, that thing you memang takkan dapat.hum..

Just something to share. Tak cakap benda ni after korang buat sume, TADAAAA! dah elok dah, Tak. Tak. The power of healing is in yourself, these things only to help you, to help you make your first move, then bile dah dapat the steps, just dance. Follow your heart. The most important thing is to Trust Yourself.

Are you ready? Good. Tell me your name, speak it out loud. NOW! Good. Very good. Now, at least you know yourself right? You, ______________, c'mon! lets us begin!!

1. Try to understand why you are upset.
Understand that everything happens for a reason. Apa yang menyebabkan you rase down? Ape yang menyebabkan you rasa lemah? Rasa macam nak masuk bilik, tutup pintu, masuk dalam selimut and off handphone? Kenal pasti.

2. Don't think about whose fault it was - at one time or another, everyone makes mistakes.
Jangan risau. Tade manusia yang perfect. Manusia takkan lari dari berbuat kesalahan. Tengok diri kita, kita pun ada buat kesalahan jugak

3. Do something quiet and relaxing to help you feel better.
Maybe you want to take a hot bath, or meditate, or read a book. That's fine. Or kalau Auni, Auni gi kedai depan rumah ni, beli coklat Cadbury Hazelnut and icecream one box. Makan gilaaaa gilaaaaaaaaaa sampai tak larat nak masuk dah.

4. In an hour, or two, or whenever you're ready, start thinking about whether you are ready to accept the other person's feelings.
It's ok, just take your time. But dont hold on to long my dear, this life have many beautiful things awaits you

5. If you are, go ahead, call them, write them a note, or whatever you need to do.
Maybe you want to talk face-to-face. They may not be willing to see you, or talk to you, but you should make an effort. Even if they turn you down, you feel better that you tried, and maybe they'll recognize that you made an effort. InsyaAllah.

6. Move on.
When you feel you are ready to open your heart again, find someone else to be with. Buat ape stuck lama2? Benda tu takkan datang balik. what is past, is past. Banyak lagi yang lagi baik! Live your life. Pernah dengar quote ni tak? When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door thaat we do not see the one which has opened for us. SO, BUKAK MATA! You have another door open, peeps!

7.
Smile! Seriously, smiling makes you feel better and if you gather a few good, close friends and have a laugh together, you'll remember how good life was without him/her and that you're okay really. Laughter is the best medicine (betul ke idiom ni? hoho). Yeah... it reminds you how great your life is. Remember, you are not going to live forever, Cheerish the moment.

8. Find something to distract you. OK. suke travel? suke masak? suka karaoke? suka main bola? suka shopping? Then, GO OUT THERE guys! Ape ni? OK. I give you one week to mourn, after that, hey, remember what i said, you still have your own your life. Mana diri you sebenar selama ni pergi???? Have fun! Just do it!

9. Replace the picture of your former dearest, with a picture of yourself.
Every day when you walk by that picture, say sorry out loud. Yes, you are apologizing to yourself for having gone that far around the bend for someone who didn't know your value and worth, and who doesn't matter anymore. And you sepatutnya deserve lagi baik dari itu!

10. Let time heal.
It has been one month now. Go to someplace where you used to go or be near your so-called one-true love and go there with a friend (bukan gi sorang-sorang ok-this is important). It may hurts you, but by hurting yourself, then you'll know that you you still alive, as you still can feel the pain. And, walla! Here you go. Re-create a new memory there, yes, WITHOUT HER/HIM. Time will heal, with real action :)

11. Practice being honest to yourself every day.
Jangan tipu diri sendiri. You can fool your family or your friends, but you cant fool yourself, let it all out. You sedih, cry out loud. Then one day, you akan realise, apa aku buat ni? And you akan found out that you will laugh to yourself sebab benda-benda macam ni. hehe

12. Read a book every night before you go to sleep.
You might never have read books, but nothing moves you outside of yourself better than a book, not a movie, not a music video, read a book. InsyaAllah, will help you heal. or perhaps, masak? heeeee. masak extra ek? nanti nak sikit boleh? ;P

13. Speak to people.
Speak to friends. Try out forums online. Knowing that thousands like you are going through the same pain helps a lot. Jangan pendam sorang-sorang, You boleh kene depression kot. Hey, ade ramai lagi kat luar sana macam awak. Ada yang lagi teruk. Ada yang tade rumah, ade yang bankrup. Tapi diorang tak mengalah, they fight. If they can survive, why you cant?

14. Have faith in HIM. Everything happen for a reason. DIA lagi tahu kenapa benda ni jadi. Ada hikmah in everything yang terjadi. Banyak-banyakkan doa, selawat, tawakal, minta dipulihkan hati kita. Luka luaran, bisa dirawat dengan ubatan, tapi luka dalaman, kena rawat dari dalam. InsyaAllah..

I know, cakap senang ar kan, but nak buat....memang susah. I know. But these might help to alleviate you a little bit, sometime kite takkan dapat apa yang kita nak. Tapi DIA bagi kita yang lagi baik. DIA takkan bagi kita dugaan kalau DIA tau kita tak dapat hadapi nya. HE knows your strength. It's time for you to use it. Trust yourself. ok? You still have people love you kat sekeliling you. KALAUPUN takde, you still have me. Sebagai manusia, aku sayang padamu (tiru ayat lakasaman sunan ke ape ni? hoho) You might be nobody to the world, but you might be a world to somebody. Good luck!


p/s : kat mana ye nak cari traveller's backpack kat egypt ni? anyone knows kedai yang ada?
p/s/s : februari. dua dah. alhamdulillah. insyaAllah .. :)
p/s/s/s : sejuk...rasa cam nak demam dah...hachoooo!!!! :'(


7 comments:

hamada said...

auni >> pakar motivasi

shaKeyna said...

auniiii~
rite at time..
help me alot..
:D
thnx.
zillion of thnx.
loves, dekna :)

r.i.d.h.u.a.n said...

ni auni kah??
xku sangka..

aunishbini said...

hamada,
hahaha,tak pasal jer.

dekna,
glad can help u little bit.most welcome.huhu

ridhuan,
ye saye sedara ridhuan. nape plak? hoho

Aina Alia bt Rahim said...

traveling bckpack jum bli kt ctystar ahad ni! haha
aku xkn lepas kn kasut y aku da aim~jgn harap! haha

aunishbini said...

ok, set city star ahad ni! aina, belikan hadiah birthdayyyyyy!!! nak2!! ^___^ yeay2!

de Picasso said...

hurmm..
bgne jgk ni..
tq2~
=]